Take the first step.
Sometimes taking the first step can be the hardest thing and the best thing you can do. Whether you’re lazy or scared or lack the time it takes to find women or find men to date, a simple move in the right direction can be all it takes to get you going. The simple act of setting up one or more free personal ads at internet personals or relationship sites; using the free dating option at your favorite dating personals site to go window shopping for local singles once a week; or telling friends that you’re ready to put yourself out there and find a date can be a great catalyst.
Doing something, anything, will give you a sense of accomplishment which in and of itself can motivate you to keep taking more steps in the right direction. And even a simple step can yield results. But you won’t know until you try. And you won’t be able to go further until you take that first step. If it seems frightening to put yourself out there, taking one step one day at a time can make dating feel manageable. Remember, courage means walking through your fear, and walking begins with the first step.
Write down what you want to do and make a time commitment.
This is simple and can yield great results. Take out a pen and paper and write down what you want. Marriage? A boyfriend or girl friend? A life partner? Write them down — all the things you want. Next write down three things you can do towards attaining each. Like: “Buy a new dress or pair of slacks that make me feel great so I feel good when I’m going out on a date.” Or: “Refresh my internet dating profiles with new photos.” Or: “Go on that singles cruise I’ve been talking about for months.” Or: “Take that class I’ve been dreaming of so that I can move on changing careers and being more self fulfilled… and maybe meet people who share similar interests.” Or: “Make more time each week to spend with friends and do things that bring me joy.” Now, next to each item, write down a time limit. In other words, write down the date (and be specific) by which you are going to do these things. Then stick to your commitment and enjoy the results.
Get yourself some awesome support.
Friends and other singles dating are your best resources! Make friends in your dating community. Read dating advice, dating tips or relationship advice from your personals dating site like adultfrienedfinder. Ask questions. Ask for help. Ask for inspiration. People love to help and you’ll be surprised who steps up. Also remember that you get what you give, so you can start by supporting your own single friends and then reap the benefits you sow for others.