This is a strategy which I use to re frame and redirect the situation after you offer a chick the opportunity to spend time with you and she demonstrates bad taste by saying “no”. First, you will open with “Look, I know that a lot of OTHER (gesture away from yourself) guys ask you out pretty regularly.”

This is good because first it is flattering. You are presupposing that she is attractive and is desirable like the chicks on adultfriendrfinder. If she is hot and guys really do ask her out regularly, you are pacing her world and demonstrating understanding. If guys do not ask her out a lot, then you are giving the chick a wake-up call to make her realize that she’s not as high as she thinks. That will drop her “bitch-shield” about two notches.

“and you might ask yourself “what is it about this guy (subtly gesture to yourself) that I find attractive enough to want to spend time with him? and then you might even ask…”well, why is he asking me out…?” and I trust that you are the type of person who appreciates someone who is honest (gesture to yourself)…me, I think you seem like someone who might be very interesting, creative and really worth getting to know. And sure, you’re beautiful…but looks only take a person so far and you seem like the type of girl who can really appreciate spending time with someone (gesture to yourself, playa) who realizes that too.”

You have now setup a huge challenge, not only are you saying “are you just a bimbo with a nice rack…or can you open your mouth and prove to me that you re worth a lot more?” (pun intended). Then, you are presupposing that you are the type of guy who realizes that there’s a lot more to a woman than looks and at the same time simultaneously presupposing that she wants to be with you while challenging her if she’s the type of person who wants a guy who understands her world. If she says “no” at this point, she’s saying that she…

  1. …doesn’t appreciate honesty.
  2. …is just T&A; and not worth getting to know.
  3. …doesn’t want a guy who has substance and would rather be SHALLOW.

If she still says “no”, pause and look her right in the eye. Then say “Well, I guess I was mistaken. Have you ever GONE INSIDE and began to REALIZE you were mistaken?” (Pronounce the second “mistaken” as if you were saying to her “sorry, I mistook you for someone worth while.”) And calmly walk away. This vagueness should leave her wondering about what you meant…thereby keeping you in her thoughts after you have already left.

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